Yesterday I was able to teach on King David’s epic fail. Here was a man who knew great success and great failure. His failure? Sleeping with another woman, getting her pregnant and murdering her husband just to protect himself.
There’s no doubt we’ve all failed at something. Most likely our failure wasn’t as heinous as David’s. Maybe it was. But regardless of your failures – relationship, career, moral – God has not forgotten you. In fact, God still loves you utterly and completely.
One of the hardest pieces of recovering from failure is learning to forgive yourself. When the church plant that I was called to be part of failed it literally took years for me to recover and forgive myself. I’m an INTJ (Myers-Briggs). We don’t fail easily. We’re perfectionists.
I was reading about a recovery from failure this morning. It’s a story about Peter. His failure was in denying that he knew Jesus. After the resurrection, Peter has to look Jesus in the eyes and come clean about his failure.
“When they finished eating, Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?”
Simon replied, “Yes, Lord, you know I love you.”
Jesus said to him, “Feed my lambs.” Jesus asked a second time, “Simon son of John, do you love me?”
Simon replied, “Yes, Lord, you know I love you.”
Jesus said to him, “Take care of my sheep.” 17 He asked a third time, “Simon son of John, do you love me?”
Peter was sad that Jesus asked him a third time, “Do you love me?” He replied, “Lord, you know everything; you know I love you.”
Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep. (John 21:15-17)
It’s no accident that Jesus asks Peter three times if he loves him. Peter denied Jesus three times. But here, Peter declares his love again – three times. Here was a new and fresh start. The failure is forgotten and so is the past. Now there is a new future.
Bishop Reuben Job writes, “Each of us has our own litany of failures to recite, but the good news is that we can start again…God offers a chance to people like Peter whose denial seemed like such an enormous failure, and to each of us, no matter what our failures have been.”
Have you experienced a love like that?