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The Boy I Was, the Man I Will Be

Reflection is a vital practice, especially at this stage of life. Many men lose themselves in the routine of daily life. They forget to assess who they are. They also forget to evaluate who they want to be. Don’t let that be your story.

A Call to Action for Men in the Second Half of Life

As I recently went through my old journals, I was flooded with memories and reflections. My entries began in 1989 when I was twenty. Back then, I was just a boy on the verge of becoming a man, filled with dreams and optimism. I hadn’t journaled before. The encouragement of Christian friends inspired me to put pen to paper. This act would become a profound part of my growth.

Today, I reflect on those early entries through the lens of my experiences. I realize that this journey has shaped me. I am still becoming the man I aspire to be. I want to share some insights with you. They may inspire your own journey. You are navigating this important stage of life.

– Rekindle Your Innocence: Remember the days when life felt simpler. Your faith was untainted by the complexities of adulthood. Embrace that innocence again! It’s never too late to pursue dreams with that same fervor and clarity. Let go of the cynicism that may have crept in over the years.

– Revisit Your Commitment: Think back to your early passion—when your commitment to your beliefs and values was fresh. That fire is still within you, waiting to be reignited. Draw strength from your values and let them guide your actions today.

– Be Bold in Your Pursuits: Life can present challenges that feel daunting. Now is not the time to retreat. Embrace your calling with courage. The strength gained through experience equips you to take bold risks and pursue your purpose with confidence.

– Stay Humble and Teachable: The learning never stops. Be open to the lessons that life presents. Allow yourself to grow in wisdom, and stay eager for the things that add depth and meaning to your life.

As I reflected on my past, I confronted the reality that my perspective has shifted over time. While the challenges I’ve faced have often led to cynicism, those experiences have profoundly shaped me. Yet, with awareness comes empowerment—the opportunity to change direction.

Reflection is a vital practice, especially at this stage of life. Many men lose themselves in the routine of daily life. They forget to assess who they are. They also forget to evaluate who they want to be. Don’t let that be your story. When life becomes overwhelming, strive to keep your composure and purpose.

Reading through my journals reignited a desire within me to reclaim the passion I had in my youth. If I’m to thrive in the next chapter of my life, it’s time to awaken from the slumber of complacency. I am determined to shed negativity. I will embrace a renewed sense of holiness. This is not a quiet meekness but a fiery passion. It propels me toward my calling.

Think of resilience—like Russell Crowe in Robin Hood. As he rises to face challenges, we too can make a commitment. We can “rise and rise again until lambs become lions” in this crucial part of our lives.

So here’s my challenge to you: Start journaling if you haven’t already. Chronicle your thoughts, aspirations, and the lessons learned along the way. Revisit those entries and track your personal growth. Pay close attention to what ignites your passion and blends seamlessly with your purpose. If you find yourself drifting off course, it’s time to make some changes.

You are worth the effort. Reclaim those dreams from your youth, and embrace the man you are destined to become.

Let go of the baggage that has accumulated over the years. Confess your struggles, seek forgiveness, and allow the Holy Spirit to awaken the fire within you. If you’ve lost your path, now is the moment to remember who you once wanted to be. Take the time to make a plan, seek guidance, and take that all-important first step.

Let’s rise together, not just for ourselves but for the lives we have yet to touch—rise and rise again!

Today’s simple thought…

Men in the second half of life find themselves uniquely positioned to keep their integrity and model discipleship for younger followers of Jesus.

Let me know what you think.

The Role of Christian Men in Turbulent Times

Weak men allow hard times to persist. Strong men can turn the tide. You have scars—use them.

We find ourselves once again in a moment when the world feels unstable. G. Michael Hopf’s quote captures this reality: “Hard times create strong men; strong men create good times; good times create weak men; weak men create hard times.” For men who follow Jesus, this cycle is not just a pattern; it is a call to action. We have some potent examples.

Joseph, sold into slavery by his brothers, thrown in prison for years, yet climbed to second-in-command of Egypt. He turned betrayal and hardship into power. He stayed sharp, forgave, and seized every chance. He interpreted dreams that saved the region from famine. Pure resilience.

David, chased by King Saul like a fugitive, hiding in caves while dodging spears. He built an army from outcasts, waited out his time, and became Israel’s greatest king-poet, warrior, all from chaos. Patience and loyalty can turn a mess into legacy.

Then there’s you. You have experienced both prosperous and challenging times, raised families, and faced significant obstacles. Now, in these turbulent times, your role is to break the cycle of weakness and lead with purpose. Here’s how:

Forge Physical and Mental Strength

Hard times demand resilience. Strengthen your body to stay sharp. Physical discipline enhances mental clarity. It helps fend off the lethargy that saps your resolve. Mentally, anchor yourself in prayer. Jesus calls us to humility, not ego. Stay grounded to avoid the complacency that breeds weak men.

Lead Through Mentoring

Strong men contribute to good times by investing in other men. Take the time to mentor other men in your life. You will be surprised to discover how many men in your circle lack strong, godly influences. Share the hard-won lessons you have learned.

Strengthen Your Marriage

Turbulent times can test marriage vows. Weak men walk away; strong men commit even more. Love your wife as Christ loved the church—that means sacrifice love that builds her up. If you have children, work to reclaim family rituals. These practices create moments of joy and stability and counter cultural drift.

Build a Fortress  

You can’t stand alone. Confess your struggles with other men and pray together. The cycle Hopf describes can only be broken when men refuse to settle for complacency. Your strength now will help prevent even harder times in the future.

Break the Cycle

Hopf’s quote serves both as a warning and a challenge. Weak men allow hard times to persist. Strong men can turn the tide. You have scars—use them. In turbulent times, Christian men do not just endure; they lead, love, and rebuild.

Personal Well-Being for Ministry Leaders

Sustainable leadership isn’t just about doing more; it’s about protecting what truly matters and caring for yourself in the process.

In the demanding world of ministry, leaders often lose sight of their personal lives. They get caught up in their professional commitments. This blurring of boundaries can lead to exhaustion and diminished effectiveness, which is a heavy burden for anyone to bear. Establishing clear boundaries means setting specific limits on time, energy, and responsibilities. This practice is essential for maintaining personal well-being. It also enhances the ability to make a meaningful impact in the lives of others. Without these protective measures, the threat of burnout can loom large. It deeply affects individual leaders. It can also impact the entire congregation they serve.

This issue is not just theoretical; current statistics reveal a troubling reality. By 2025, it is estimated that 40% of pastors will be at high risk for burnout. This is a staggering increase of 400% from the 11% recorded in 2015. Additionally, 42% of pastors have seriously considered leaving ministry altogether, clearly illustrating the intense pressures they face. Loneliness can add to these challenges, with 65% of pastors reporting feelings of isolation, and 18% feeling this way frequently.

Studies from organizations like Barna and Lifeway highlight the unique vulnerabilities that ministry leaders experience. These vulnerabilities are often due to the expectation of being available around the clock. The emotional labor required in their roles also contributes to these challenges.

It’s essential to understand why boundaries are important. They prevent feelings of resentment. They offer opportunities for spiritual renewal. They create a model of healthy living for those around us. Jesus understood this necessity. He stepped away for prayer amidst the chaos of His ministry. We see this in Luke 5:16. His example shows that taking time for rest is not a sign of weakness. Instead, it is sacred. It is also an essential part of our life’s work.

To support leaders in establishing healthier practices, here’s a four-step Rebound plan that will resonate:

1. Assess and Define: Each week, carve out time to evaluate your schedule. Find your non-negotiables—be it family time, personal rest, or Sabbath moments—and communicate these openly. This transparency helps foster understanding and support.

2. Delegate and Prioritize: Acknowledge that it’s okay to share the load. Identify tasks that others can take on to free you up for your core calling. Tools like to-do lists can help clarify your priorities and keep you focused on what truly matters.

3. Practice Self-Care: Ensure you dedicate time each day to activities that nourish your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. You can do this through exercise, hobbies that bring you joy, or even seeking professional support. Consider finding a coach for accountability; it can make a significant difference.

4. Review and Adjust: At the end of each month, take a thoughtful moment. Reflect on what’s working. Consider what could be improved. Celebrate even the small wins, as they can help build momentum and motivate you to keep going.

By embracing these boundaries, ministry leaders can find paths to thrive, serving with renewed passion and purpose. Sustainable leadership isn’t just about doing more; it’s about protecting what truly matters and caring for yourself in the process. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Taking these steps can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling ministry experience.

The Jesus Way of Masculinity

While fully God, Jesus was also fully human. His humanness was incarnated in the masculine. Understanding who Jesus was as a man provides insight into how men can live out and model masculine characteristics as created by God.

I’m beginning a new series called The Jesus Way of Masculinity. While fully God, Jesus was also fully human. His humanness was incarnated in the masculine. Understanding who Jesus was as a man provides insight into how men can live out and model masculine characteristics as created by God.

The place where we begin, though, is not with Jesus. We’ll begin with Adam. The Genesis narrative describes “first things.” These first actions of God detail his creative design from chaos to order. Included in God’s creative design are people, specifically, male and female. Both are created as equal image bearers of God. Both sexes speak something about God’s nature. And. Both sexes reveal something about their responsibilities in creation.

The male – Adam had a defined responsibility to work alongside God in creation. Prior to fulfilling his responsibilities, it’s important to see that Adam’s entire life was given to him as a gift from God. Genesis 2:7 (NIV) reads, “Then the LORD God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.” This life-giving breath of God communicates that Adam’s entire life was predicated on the life given to him by the Creator. This life-giving breath suggests Adam’s inheritance as a son of God and led to his responsibilities in creation. Genesis chapter 2 highlights Adam’s role:

  • His responsibilities occur in a defined place – the Garden
  • He was to work and care for the Garden
  • He was responsible for his obedience to God’s commands
  • He named the animals
  • He recognized Eve as part of himself
  • He committed himself to her

We see Adam as being clearly created by God for a purpose. He was to manage God’s place on the earth, rule over creation (naming of animals), and nurture his relationships. All of this was intended to honor God in the way that Adam (and Eve) were the image bearers of God in the Garden and on Earth.

Very shortly, though, we discover that the original order was destroyed by original sin. Adam failed to fulfill his responsibility to nurture his wife and nurture his dominion over the earth instead choosing to rebel against God’s design. The rest of the story involves banishment and the beginning of God’s redemptive story climaxing in the incarnation of Jesus.

In Romans 5:12-21, the Apostle Paul contrasts the roles of Adam and Jesus. Adam failed to fulfill his image-bearing role which led to the “death” of all of creation. Jesus, and his “one righteous act” (5:18) bring justification. In other words, Jesus’ obedience had the potential to bring life back to all of creation. In short, I would suggest that Jesus, as the image-bearer of God, fulfilled the things at which Adam failed.

In general, we can apply this to the masculine role – you are an image bearer of God. Certainly, this applies to women as well. Genesis 1 seems to be clear on this reality.  But men cannot shirk this responsibility. The absence of men as image bearers of God in creation is a troubling reality in the 21st century. Many men flee any conversation about God or Christianity. Maybe this has occurred because of the deep feminization of the church and Christianity, but it’s not an excuse.

As an image bearer, men are called to take up the responsibility for revealing the presence of God in every facet of society and take back the ground lost to the enemy. This isn’t militant, nor is it Dominion Theology. It is the created nature of men, who, redeemed by Jesus and filled with the Holy Spirit, fulfilling the intended purpose of the masculine.

So, an initial aspect of fulfilling the Jesus Way of Masculinity begins with a Christian man owning his call as an image-bearer of God and exerting influence over the direction of creation for the glory of God and the coming of the Kingdom.