Men, every great comeback starts with one clear decision.
Too many of us stall in midlife—providing and showing up but feeling hollow. There’s no fire, no direction, and no real leadership at home. This changes when you learn to decide like the man God created you to be.
Here’s my simple, 5-Minute Decision Protocol that I use myself and teach to my Rebound clients. Use it the next time you face a significant decision—whether it’s a career pivot, a marriage reset, a health overhaul, or stepping into your calling.
1. Nail the Question: Write one clear sentence. For example, “Should I take this new role that moves us cross-country?” Remember, vague questions keep you stuck. Clarity gives you power.
2. Check Your Compass: Does this decision move you closer to the life God is calling you to? (Think of strong faith, being a respected husband and father, having a purposeful mission, and maintaining vitality in body and spirit.) If yes, keep going; if no, walk away.
3. Door Test: Is this decision reversible in under 12 months with no lasting damage?
– Yes (most decisions): Decide quickly with about 70% of the information. Lean towards courageous action.
– No (this includes one-way doors like kids, marriage vows, or significant moves): Take a deeper look.
4. Gut Filters:
– Will I regret not doing this in 10 years?
– On my deathbed, will I be proud of my choice?
– If my best friend or my son were in my shoes, what would I tell him to do?
5. Final Check: If you find you’re hesitating mainly out of fear, that’s often a signal to move forward. If you feel tired, angry, or drained, give it a night’s sleep and then decide.
Once you’ve made your decision:
– Speak it out loud to your wife or a trusted brother.
– Block the first three actions in your calendar for TODAY.
– Burn the boats.
Track your progress every 90 days: “What worked? What didn’t? Next time, I’ll…” Write down one sentence for each.
That’s how ordinary men become faithful warriors who finish strong.
God didn’t wire you for hesitation—He wired you for stewardship and obedience.
What decision are you facing right now? Drop it below or comment “DECIDE” if you want help working through it. Your family, your legacy, and your calling are waiting on the other side of a clear yes or no. Who’s making one today?
Dr. Ron Geisler 