A godly husband doesn’t wait for romance to happen. He initiates it. God commands husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25). That sacrificial, pursuing love isn’t passive. Jesus pursued you when you were far off—He initiated, He pursued, He gave everything.
Your wife needs that same initiating love from you.
In the Song of Solomon, the husband doesn’t sit back; he pursues with passion: “Behold, you are beautiful, my love… You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride, with one glance of your eyes” (Song of Solomon 4:1,9).
He notices her, affirms her, draws her in. He leads the romance.
Colossians 3:19 echoes it: “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” Love actively, tenderly, without bitterness.
With everything going on in your life, it’s easy to coast in this area. But coasting cools intimacy. Your wife may not say it out loud, but she still longs to feel pursued, desired, cherished—like she’s your bride, not just your roommate.
So initiate today:
Plan a date night
Text her something specific you love about her—not generic, but personal.
Hold her hand, look her in the eyes, tell her she’s captivating.
Pursue emotional connection first—listen without fixing—then let physical intimacy flow from that heart-bond.
This is biblical masculinity in action. Lead with love. Initiate with strength and tenderness. Watch God rekindle the fire in your marriage.
Your wife is worth the pursuit. She’s your gift from God.
Husbands: Who’s stepping up this week to pursue your wife like Jesus pursues us?
Drop a comment if you’re committing to initiate romance this week. Or DM me if you need practical ideas from the Rebound 8-Week Transformation Program for Men.
Your marriage matters eternally. Lead it well.
Dr. Ron Geisler 