Father’s Day is that one time of the year when I get complete obedience from every member of my family. I tell them not to spend a lot of money on me—and they don’t.
Personally, I remember how scared I was both times Melissa uttered those words, “I’m pregnant!” People told me that becoming a parent changes everything. I brushed them off, but they were certainly right. Being a father, a parent is hard work. It may be the toughest and most certainly the most important job we ever do. However, I heard about this guy who didn’t quite grasp the importance of fatherhood.
After bringing their first baby home from the hospital, the wife suggested to her husband that he try his hand at changing diapers. “I’m busy,” he said. “I’ll do the next one.”
The next time the baby was wet, she asked if he was ready to learn how to change diapers. He gave her a puzzled look, then said finally, “I didn’t mean the next diaper; I meant the next baby!”
I’m glad that we have a special day set aside to remember, thank and honor dads. That’s a good thing. And I hope this is a good day for all you dads, especially the new dads. But we’re also all aware that Father’s Day can be a hard day, too. You might be a person who did not have a good experience with your father: he wasn’t physically, emotionally or spiritually available to you. His absence has left an absence in your maturity. If you’re a man who didn’t have a good male role model, you might be struggling to figure out what being a man means.
Some of you are sad this Father’s Day because you’ve lost your dad. You miss him. I hope your memories are pleasant and you can still celebrate his life and take all the good he taught and apply it now.
Some of you are far away from dad today. Make those phone calls.
I thought it would be helpful for all of us to express our thoughts for Father’s Day. So on your message notes I’ve offered three ways to give some words to your Father’s Day thoughts. Take a moment and jot down a sentence or two.
In Christianity we believe in one God who reveals himself in three unique ways. We believe that God revealed himself to us in Jesus – God became flesh. We believe that God reveals himself to us in the Holy Spirit – God with God’s people every day. But we also believe that God reveals himself as Creator or Father. When Jesus prayed, he called God Abba – daddy, father. God is the one who gave life to everything but he is also a personal, caring dad. That’s why when we pray, we use language of God as a father.
God is the absolute best father/dad. Sometimes we want to think about God by using the example of our earthly father. That might be good if your earthly dad blessed you but if your relationship with your earthly dad is less than you wish it were we can discover what a good father is in the character and nature of God our heavenly Father. So let’s take a look today at God’s character as a Father.
Deuteronomy 32/message notes.
Chapter 32 is a very long poem written by Moses. Moses is dying, his life and ministry are coming to a close. He’s passing the baton of leadership to Joshua. Chapter 32 are some of his final words to Israel. In this poem, which he reads in front of everyone, Moses reminds God’s family about the nature and character of God. He wants to leave them with hope in who God is, what God has done on their behalf and how they can be faithful to God in all things. What does Moses say about God, the Father?
READ 32:1-4. A faithful God who does no wrong… Our father is faithful. Moses could say a whole lot about God, the Father but the first thing – the most important characteristic about God is that God is faithful. God, the Father doesn’t leave. God, the Father stays! God, the Father is constant. God, the Father is loyal. God, the Father keeps his word.
This is really tremendous that this is the first thing Moses says about God, the Father. Moses is speaking out of his experience. Moses is at the end of his life, but he’s thinking back to all the ways God was loyal, constant, keeping his word, always there. He’s remembering how God saved him from being slaughtered with all the other babies and how God rescued him out of the Nile River. Moses is thinking about the God who showed up in a burning bush and invited Moses to join God’s revolution and rescue God’s people from Pharaoh. Moses is thinking about coming out on the other side of the Red Sea. He’s remembering the God who got them through the desert. He’s remembering the faithful God who has now positioned his people on the edge of the Promised Land. And all Moses can say is he is a faithful God – who keep his word and his promises.
This is our God. Our Father who looked at you and said, “I don’t like where he’s heading. I don’t like where her life is going.” And this God steps out of eternity and in Jesus comes and rescues you and me from sin and death and Hell. The God who loves you beyond what you can imagine, who left everything to suffer and die for you to have life. That’s our faithful God.
This is the same faithful Father who has walked down some tough roads with you, whether you knew it or not. This the Father who has been constant and loyal.
And Moses says, I want to whole earth to sit up and take notice of this God! This God is great! This God is a Rock! This God is perfect. This God is a faithful father. This God is the father who made me and formed me. This is the faithful Father I want to praise!
Some of you might be saying I can’t believe that. My dad walked away. My dad was a loser. My dad was never there. God’s not like your dad! Men, if you need to find out what it means to be man, here is where it starts. Be faithful! Your dad was not and you want to be – be faithful. Be there. The strength of your presence is life-changing. You may not have the track record you want as a dad yet, but start now. Be faithful, be present, be loyal. The Holy Spirit will form the character of God in you, if you ask. God make me a better man, a better dad, after your own heart.
Our Father is faithful and our Father loves his family. 32:9 In Christ, you belong to God. You’re in God’s family. God has loved you, rescued you from sin and death, and put his name on you. You belong to God and he loves you. You are his. He’s not letting you go. In fact, everything God has done has been for you.
A little boy was eagerly looking forward to the birthday party of a friend who lived only a few blocks away. When the day finally arrived, a blizzard made the sidewalks and roads nearly impassable. The boy’s father, sensing the danger, hesitated to let his son go. The youngster reacted tearfully. “But Dad,” he pleaded, “all the other kids will be there. Their parents are letting them go.” The father thought for a moment, then replied softly, “All right, you may go.”
Surprised but overjoyed, the boy bundled up and plunged into the raging storm. The driving snow made visibility almost impossible, and it took him more than half an hour to trudge the short distance to the party. As he rang the doorbell, he turned briefly to look out into the storm. His eye caught the shadow of a retreating figure. It was his father. He had followed his son’s every step to make sure he arrived safely.
Too often there are more stories like this: There’s a Spanish story of a father and son who had become estranged. The son ran away, and the father set off to find him. He searched for months to no avail. Finally, in a last desperate effort to find him, the father put an ad in a Madrid newspaper. The ad read: Dear Paco, meet me in front of this newspaper office at noon on Saturday. All is forgiven. I love you. Your Father. On Saturday 800 Pacos showed up, looking for forgiveness and love from their fathers.
“Portion” describes inheritance. Can you think of anything God wouldn’t do for you? The Father loves his children and does everything for your good. It may not seem like it sometimes. We think we know what is best for us. But God has the bigger picture in mind. And he is always working toward that end.
That’s what God not only loves his family but our Father gives the best. 32:10 describes the way God found Israel and what he did next for them. Read 10-14. These are the words that describe all the good things the Father gives to his people. Reminds me of what Jesus said, “If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!’ (Matthew 7:11)
What’s the best gift your dad, or your parent, ever gave to you? You asked for it and you got it. A bike? A car? Clothes? This is going to seem ridiculous but when I was 9 there was one thing I must have bugged my parents about for months –a six million dollar man action figure. Steve Austin had the bionic arm, the cool running suit, you could look through his bionic eye. Man was that cool. I kept asking for it; after every commercial I would make sure to remind my parents that this is what I wanted – the perfect thing. I still remember that Christmas when I opened one of the boxes under the tree and there was my very own Six Million Dollar Man. Good day. I have no idea where it is now, but that was a good day.
We have a God, who is a Father, who gives great gifts to you. He gives you the best. You matter to him. God doesn’t give you what’s left over. What are the best gifts that you can be aware of today and celebrate – they are the best from God.
Let me take you to one last place that describes God’s character as Father. This is a tough one. But it is Scripture and it describes God. Read 32:43. Moses is concluding his poem about the nature of God. It ends with God rising up and protecting his kids. We see the wrath and vengeance of God. There’s that side of God, too. Our Father protects.
Crazy memory. A few times I went hunting with my dad when I was young. We were walking through a field and two things seemed to happen almost simultaneously. I saw a big snake and heard a couple of gunshots. One of those times I remember my dad protecting me from danger and harm.
If God is our Father we cannot dismiss his nature and character that not only loves and cares for you as his child but that part of God’s nature that will rise up with an avenging force to protect his people. The God and Father Moses knew was a God who was relentless in protecting his children. That is still our God. That is still our Father’s nature.
In fact Scripture ends on that note of promise – at the end of all things, God destroys those things which intend evil and harm for God’s people; things like pain, evil, death, hell. God will destroy those things so all that is left is joy, peace, abundance, life.
I hope your dad got it right. But if he didn’t I hope that you can live into a place of forgiveness. He was/is human. I’m sure he’s doing/did the best he could. As a dad today you can start making better choices. But wherever you are in that relationship with dad, with yourself, fatherhood begins in the character and nature of God. Our heavenly Father will show you how you can be the best kind of dad.